There are 100’s if not 1000’s of types of martial arts. Divorce is often seen as combat. After recently reading about martial arts, I wondered if different divorce processes were martial arts, what would they be? I will only discuss the martial arts that are most popular in American culture – judo, jutizu, tae kawando, karate, and kung fu. I don’t totally rely on Wikepedia but it is often a good place to start and to get a summary. Wikepedia says:
JUDO (meaning "gentle way") is a modernmartial art, combat sportand Olympic sport created in Japan in 1882. Its most prominent feature is its competitive element, where the object is to either throwor takedown one's opponent to the ground, immobilize or otherwise subdue one's opponent with a grappling maneuver, or force an opponent to submit by joint lockingor by executing a strangle hold or choke.
KARATE is a martial artdeveloped in Okinawa, Japan. It was developed partially from indigenous fighting methods called te (literally "hand") and from Chinese kenpō. Karate is a striking art using punching, kicking, knee and elbow strikes, and open-handed techniques such as knife-hands. Grappling, locks, restraints, throws, and vital point strikes are taught in some styles.
JUJUTSU is a Japanese martial art and a method of close combat for defeating an armed and armored opponent in which one uses no weapon, or only a short weapon. In some countries the word jujutsu is spelt in English as jujitsu, ju-jitsu, or Japanese jiu-jitsu. "Jū" can be translated to mean "gentle, supple, flexible, pliable, or yielding." "Jutsu" can be translated to mean "art" or "technique" and represents manipulating the opponent's force against himself rather than confronting it with one's own force. Jujutsu developed among the samurai of feudal Japan as a method for defeating an armed and armored opponent in which one uses no weapon, or only a short weapon. Because striking against an armored opponent proved ineffective, practitioners learned that the most efficient methods for neutralizing an enemy took the form of pins, joint locks, and throws. These techniques were developed around the principle of using an attacker's energy against him, rather than directly opposing it.
TAEKWONDO is a Korean martial art. In Korean, tae means "to strike or break with foot"; kwon means "to strike or break with fist"; and do means "way", "method", or "path". Thus, taekwondo may be loosely translated as "the way of the hand and the foot." It combines combattechniques, self-defense, sport, exercise, and in some cases meditation and philosophy. The art in general emphasizes kicks thrown from a mobile stance, employing the leg's greater reach and power (compared to the arm). Taekwondo training generally includes a system of blocks, kicks, punches, and open-handed strikes and may also include various take-downs or sweeps, throws, and joint locks. Some taekwondo instructors also incorporate the use of pressure points, known as jiapsul, as well as grabbing self-defense techniques borrowed from other martial arts, such as hapkido and judo.
KUNG FU, gongfu, or gung fu is a Chineseterm referring to any study, learning, or practice that requires patience, energy, and time to complete, often used in the West to refer to Chinese martial arts. In its original meaning, kung fu can refer to any skill achieved through hard work and practice, not necessarily martial. Originally, to practice kung fu did not just mean to practice Chinese martial arts. Instead, it referred to the process of one's training - the strengthening of the body and the mind, the learning and the perfection of one's skills - rather than to what was being trained. It refers to excellence achieved through long practice in any endeavor. In the colloquial, you can say that a person's kung fu is good in cooking, or that someone has kung fu in calligraphy; saying that a person possesses kung fu in an area implies skill in that area, which they have worked hard to develop. Someone with "bad kung fu" simply has not put enough time and effort into training, or seems to lack the motivation to do so.
Let me try to summarize the philosophy of each.
JUDO (meaning "gentle way") is a modernmartial art, combat sportand Olympic sport created in Japan in 1882. Its most prominent feature is its competitive element, where the object is to either throwor takedown one's opponent to the ground, immobilize or otherwise subdue one's opponent with a grappling maneuver, or force an opponent to submit by joint lockingor by executing a strangle hold or choke.
KARATE is a martial artdeveloped in Okinawa, Japan. It was developed partially from indigenous fighting methods called te (literally "hand") and from Chinese kenpō. Karate is a striking art using punching, kicking, knee and elbow strikes, and open-handed techniques such as knife-hands. Grappling, locks, restraints, throws, and vital point strikes are taught in some styles.
JUJUTSU is a Japanese martial art and a method of close combat for defeating an armed and armored opponent in which one uses no weapon, or only a short weapon. These techniques were developed around the principle of using an attacker's energy against him, rather than directly opposing it.
TAEKWONDO is a Korean martial art and the national sport of South Korea. In Korean, tae means "to strike or break with foot"; kwon means "to strike or break with fist"; and do means "way", "method", or "path". Thus, taekwondo may be loosely translated as "the way of the hand and the foot." It combines combattechniques, self-defense, sport, exercise, and in some cases meditation and philosophy.
KUNG FU, gongfu, or gung fu is a Chineseterm referring to any study, learning, or practice that requires patience, energy, and time to complete, often used in the West to refer to Chinese martial arts. In its original meaning, kung fu can refer to any skill achieved through hard work and practice, not necessarily martial. In Chinese, Gōngfu is a compound of two words, combining (gōng) meaning "work", "achievement", or "merit", and which translates into "man", so that a literal rendering would be "achievement of man". Its connotation is that of an accomplishment arrived at by great effort of time and energy. In Mandarin, when two "first tone" words such as gōng and fū are combined, the second word often takes a neutral tone, in this case forming gōngfu. Originally, to practice kung fu did not just mean to practice Chinese martial arts. Instead, it referred to the process of one's training - the strengthening of the body and the mind, the learning and the perfection of one's skills - rather than to what was being trained. It refers to excellence achieved through long practice in any endeavor. This meaning can be traced to classical writings and specially to Neo-Confucianismwhich emphasize the importance of effort in education.
Now back to my original question. If Divorce Was a Martial Art What Would It Be? It may be more of a range than a specific divorce process.
JUDO is the "gentle way" but is competitive element, where the object is to either throwor takedown one's opponent to the ground, immobilize or otherwise subdue one's opponent with a grappling maneuver, or force an opponent to submit by joint lockingor by executing a strangle hold or choke. This is clearly an adversary process but perhaps with more subtle force?
KARATE to me is not gentle and my vision is always of someone breaking something. Not unlike a spouse throwing a lamp at the other spouse. Definitely very adversary.
JUJUTSU developed around the principle of using an attacker's energy against him, rather than directly opposing it. It is the martial art that made me start thinking about divorce. Perhaps mediation.
TAEKWONDO combines combat techniques, self-defense, sport, exercise, and in some cases meditation and philosophy. Meditation and mediation are always confused in the Yellow Pages.
KUNG FU refers to any study, learning, or practice that requires patience, energy, and time to complete. In its original meaning, kung fu can refer to any skill achieved through hard work and practice, not necessarily martial. Its connotation is that of an accomplishment arrived at by great effort of time and energy. Originally, to practice kung fu did not just mean to practice Chinese martial arts. Instead, it referred to the process of one's training - the strengthening of the body and the mind, the learning and the perfection of one's skills - rather than to what was being trained. It refers to excellence achieved through long practice in any endeavor. Once again, I think mediation comes the closest.
It would appear if divorce was a martial art it would be mediation.
This was not the conclusion I expected but the emphasis on meditation, philosophy, and self awareness makes it more akin to mediation. Perhaps the Zen of Mediation where Zen (once again per Wikepedia) emphasizes the personal expression of experiential wisdom in the attainment of enlightenment and de-emphasizes adherence to standardized theoretical knowledge in favor of direct self-realization through meditation.
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