Getting the help you need to move through a transitional period in your life isn’t always easy. Many things hold people back from getting help: time constraints, feeling like you can get through this on your own, not wanting to appear “crazy”, thinking the problem will just go away or trying to find the right person to talk to. Some people feel like going to a therapist is admitting defeat; a sign of weakness. This is absolutely not true. I tell people during their first session that it is a sign of courage, not weakness, to honestly look at what is going on and try to move forward.
One of the biggest problems in seeking help can be the misunderstanding people have about going to a therapist. Some people feel that the therapist will try to change who they are. Not true. Others feel as though they will be faced with 50 minutes of pure “touchy, feely” hell. Not in my office! Yet others wonder what the point is-nothing will change. Not if you don’t work on it.
All of us need someone to talk to at various points in our lives. Life throws up different obstacles and challenges. Talking to a knowledgable professional can provide a safe environment to vent feelings and frustrations, gain insights into behavior and motivation and offer ways to cope and move forward. The longer a problem goes on unaddressed, the more likely you are to become stuck. It then becomes a challenge to change patterns that have now become habituated.
When looking for a therapist I suggest finding someone you can relate to, she or he relates to you and you feel comfortable with her or him. It doesn’t matter how highly recommended a therapist comes, if you don’t feel as though you “click” on some level with the person, you won’t get very far. Make sure that the therapist has experience and expertise in the area that you feel you need help with. If your having problems with communication, go to someone who is knowledgable about communications issues. If you feel that parenting has become problematic, find a therapist who has experience with parenting skills.
At Divorce Communications, we constantly strive to offer solution-oriented services to help people work through transitions, grow and better themselves. After much research, I am now offering online counseling via video, chat, or telephone. Anyone interested can go to my website kakick.com, contact me at Kim@DivorceCommunications.com or simply go to kakick.secure-client-area.com/portal to register and begin getting the help you need.