Remember when you were sick as a child and you would go into your parents bedroom knowing your mom would take care of you? Remember that feeling of comfort and love and safeness you felt as your parents would make sure they took care of you, give you the right medication, and tuck you back into bed? A child of divorce doesn’t always feel that sense of comfort. Going into mom’s bedroom in the middle of the night is not the same when there is a stepparent involved. Don’t get me wrong, a stepparent can be the greatest person in the world but it changes the dynamics.
Moments like these are difficult to understand if you aren’t a child of divorce. So for all of you out there dealing with divorce, whether in the courtroom, in your office, or as a friend, remember the children who are the real victims in the divorce. Even today as I sit here as a child of divorce, and a mother who divorced, life isn’t the same and never will be.
When a major life change occurs, why do we assume our children are just going to “be okay”. As professionals, parents, relatives and friends we need to take an active stance in making sure we all try to adjust to this new life change called divorce. It’s amazing how one word can describe a lifetime of change.
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