It is never easy to realize the end of a relationship. Dreams once shared no longer exist, plans for the future change, and one finds oneself suddenly single. As if this isn’t enough, when there are children, a parent has to find the strength and stamina to still parent.
No one has to traverse this terrain alone. It is vitally important to get the support needed to be able to carry on in a semi-normal mode. This may entail entering therapy to help through the transition, calling on a support network, or joining a support group.
Educating oneself is a key step to take in order to minimize the collateral damage that can occur during and after divorce. It is also important to find an appropriate outlet for the every present and ever changing emotions that one experiences. Adjusting to change takes time, patience, and effort.
Just as you are experiencing a host of emotions, so are your children. It is important that you remain available for them. Children should never be used as confidants; that isn’t their role. Parents should continue to enforce rules and provide structure. Minimize changes to schedules and routines as much as possible. This will help the children feel secure and safe.
I will be presenting with United Family and Marriage Associates this month. The topic is ways to successfully blend step-families. I am discussing “Living in 2 Homes”. This is a great resource for parents. For more information and to register, click on the link below. http://www.marriageandfamilyonlineconferencesaffiliates.com/idevaffiliate.php?is=108_0_5_3.