Sunday, June 19, 2011

Why is Divorce Terrifying for Women

Why is divorce so terrifying to women? Well, a recent article I read attempts to speak about this issue. Apparently, the article theorizes that it all goes back to the days when pre-historic man lived in caves. Men hunted and women took care of the children and cooked the food. When a woman’s marriage breaks up, they tend to judge themselves harshly basically because of primal instinct.

The author of the author relates that when she was going through her divorce, she says she felt as if she might die when her husband left. Fear of being left alone was too much. Back in man’s early days, if you weren’t part of a tribe, you were on your own and very likely to die at the hands of nature (i.e. predators, weather, etc.). For the author, being cast out of her comfortable place resonated with her. The strange thing is that according to the article oddly enough, even abusive marriages, can feel like a safe place to some women. According to the author, women feel this way no matter how successful or accomplished they are or how much they recognize that a divorce is necessary.

Women often take responsibility for marriage, for keeping the family together. If the family is separated, they often feel they are failures and that it’s their fault, but that’s just not so.

The reality is that divorce is hard and it’s hard for almost everyone. At times it may seem like you might not make it through to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but you will get there. If it's something that you've thought about or have further questions, you can contact my office to speak with a qualified attorney to assist you with your legal needs.

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