Voodoo Divorce

This goes under the category, I thought I heard of everything in divorce. I was re-posting our listing in Craig’s List and decided to do a search of divorce to see other listings. What to my surprise did I found among many listing for document preparers but the following listing :
Extreme Voodoo Spells by Isaura
Broken-Hearted Emergencies, Immediately Resolved!
My Readings And Spells Are Known To Be 100% Accurate & Effective!
The Answer To Unconditional Ever-lasting Love.. Store & Restore Romance, Passion, Desires
Do you feel powerless to create positive change in your own life?
Are you being given visions, or dreams, or simply intuitions, that you don't understand?
Are you frustrated by a relationship that seems to be going nowhere?
Need to gain back trust, love, or effection?
I have been helping people find their path to true love and happiness for over 16 years through spells and advice. I can guide you to your deepest desires, no matter how difficult they seem to be I can empower you with the strength you need to take on life and love's most difficult challenges.
My next step was to google divorce voodoo and I found 456,000 hits including an Amazon listing for the following:
Voodoo Divorce : Put a Hex on Your Ex Through Preparation and Knowledge by Stephen Rue Esq.
Clearly, some people are not happy with the divorce process or the results of their divorce and want to try something else. Let me know if anyone has tried Voodoo Divorce and what were the results.
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Growing Up Divorced

By Cathy Chestler, Co-Owner All About The Children

Being a child of divorce makes you grow up in ways different from your friends. From the age of 7, I knew the meaning of words like, “visitation”, “court”, and “custody”. Going to play with my friends on weekends consisted of calling my father first to see what day and time he would be coming to get us for visitation. Holidays consisted of going with mom for a few days then going with dad the other few days.

Growing up as a child of divorce I would watch my parents fight about finances, visitation, and issues I didn’t understand. As much as they tried to hide their hatred for one another, it was simple to see. Couple that with each parent remarrying, each step parent bringing in children from their previous marriages, my mother having another child, and it became a soap opera of sorts.

From the age of 7, I knew I wanted to help children like myself. I wanted to work with children of divorce and let them know life goes on, it’s o.k., and it is not your fault. I always imagined my office having a couch and a fish tank, and that everything was going to be great.

I myself divorced when my children were 7 and 9. At first, it was amicable and I knew I could deal with just about anything since I was a child of divorce myself. One thing a child of divorce never experiences, that I quickly learned, was there is this court system that governs all decisions.

For the past 7 years I have spent thousands of dollars in lawyer fees, hours upon hours in a courtroom, and many sleepless nights wondering how one single person called a Judge, can make decisions that greatly impact the lives of people they barely know. There had to be an alternative to this mass chaos and I was going to either find it or create it.

Although I don’t have an office or a fish tank in which I meet with children of divorce, I have the world wide web. I created a communication site that helps facilitate communication between divorced people who have children. Instead of trying to help one child at a time, I decided to put my energy into starting at the top, where education and a finely tuned divorce communication tool could reach out and help many at once.

I have created what I think is the most incredible divorce communication tool ever. I created it out of my experiences of a child of divorce as well as my own divorce. I used my Masters degree in Counseling and really fine-tuned tool that I believe will help not only the children of divorce but their parents as well. All About The Children was created out of compassion for children and the first hand experiences I have had in my life. My business partner is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who has been counseling families and children for the past 23 years and is currently working on her P.hD in Psychology. Together we have created a divorce communication website that will take the children out of the middle while allowing the parents/guardians to communicate in an effective manner.

All About The Children

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Driving and Divorce

I have always been impressed by how nice the people are in Tucson. If you are in a supermarket and you ask a clerk for an item, the clerk will almost always ask you if he or she can take you to the item. However, that all seems to change when they get behind the wheel of a car. In particular no one has patience with the car in front of the them making a left turn. Before the green arrow can be seen the car in back of me is tooting its horn. Many times I am waiting because it is a leading green arrow or the conditions are not safe. Why do people personalities change when they drive a car. This made me realize that people’s personalities often change in different circumstances. Clearly, getting a divorce is one of them. Nice people can be become horrible people when they are getting divorced. I guess couples must pretend they are in a supermarket and not behind the wheel of a car.
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Project Runway and Divorce

I must admit that I not only watch but enjoy Project Runway. Not only is it fun but Tim Gunn’s catch phrases, "Make it work", "Carry on," and "This worries me" and Heidi Klum’s "One Day "You Are In, Next Day You Are Out" apply to divorce as well as fashion. It was a pleasant surprise when I saw a recent show which was season 6, episode 8 where the challenge was for designers must convert an old wedding dress into a fashionable new look. See more about episode at http://www.mylifetime.com/on-tv/shows/project-runway/project-runway-episodes. This is not only a metaphor for divorce but good advice. When we are working with couples in mediation we tell them this is an opportunity for a fresh start and to allow them to move on.

As always, you can post any comment about this blog, Divorce Mediation, or Tucson Arizona by following the directions at the right in the green column or at the bottom of this website. Learn more about mediation at http://www.center-divorce-mediation.com/ WM(152) 10/09/09

Expresss Divorce - No Magic Wand

Funny things make me think about divorce. I was recently in the new Whole Foods store in the upper west side of Manhattan. When we went to check out there were not the ordinary lines where you feel like you are gambling to see which clerk you get. Instead there were four color coded lines with two express and two regular. You watched a TV monitor which indicated the number of the check out clerk who was available. I have read of a similar procedure with banks of elevators. Then I read in the September 24, 2009 New York Times about professional tennis’ longest rally. It lasted 29 minutes with 643 shots and took place at a Virginia Slims event between Vicki Nelson and Jean Hepner. How does all of this relate to divorce? It does because many couples want to get divorce over with as soon as possible. They want to quickly rip off the band aide. Couples often come to me and want me to wave the magic wand and get them divorced instanteously. I would be rich if I can could do it. Couples want the express divorce. They want the Whole Foods checkout and they definitely don’t want a 643 shot tennis rally. If couples cooperate in mediation it can be a quicker process. It is up to the couple. I usually tell couples who can’t resolve their case in mediation to do an expedited divorce. I tell them not to spend their time negotiating in a contested divorce but to go directly to trial. It will be less expensive and quicker.
As always, you can post any comment about this blog, Divorce Mediation, or Tucson Arizona by following the directions at the right in the green column or at the bottom of this website. Learn more about mediation at http://www.center-divorce-mediation.com/ WM(151) 10/02/09